A father is the first man a daughter ever loves. It’s the sacred divine love for her father…the kind that sees him as larger than life. To her, he is strength. He is safety. He is a protector, a provider, a hero.
In the eyes of a little girl, her father is God-like. And that love becomes the blueprint.
It sets the tone for how she will expect to be treated by men in the future—what she will accept, what she will long for, and what she will believe she deserves.
Every word, every touch, every absence…it all paints the canvas. And every man who comes after him will be held against that first imprint.
If her father starts to beat her, she will assume that being beaten is okay and is in fact a sign of love.
And if the love is distant and emotionally unavailable, she will try anything to get his attention.
Looking for love and attention doesn’t stop, but it may change the child from an authentic self to a performance for love.
If you had a father who had narcissistic characteristics, there is so much you need to know to heal.
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Warmly,
Mariam.
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